Because I don’t want to cause drama with this individual this “letter” may be vague. I’m the type of person that doesn’t sugar coat things and I’m very straight forward. The majority of the time it gets me in trouble. I don’t do it to be mean, it’s just a way of expressing myself. The times that I do keep things to myself are when I know that without a doubt, there will be drama caused. This is a new development in my life and sometimes I really struggle, so here goes nothing.
Dear _______,
What the #3L! happened? Things used to be great with us and then it fell apart…… I feel like you don’t ever think about how your decisions will affect others, and that you always do what you want, but that isn’t always the best for you. In the last year you have gone through a lot of hardships and I was so supportive, even when I didn’t agree and thought you were completely wrong, and now, after all of that it feels like you don’t even make an effort to spend time with me.
Now, I do realize that some of this is my fault as well because I don’t always reply to texts. I also realize that we are both busy, but I don’t always know with what. I spend a lot of time watching tv shows and reading….. I’m sure that you probably do the same thing. Maybe next time I’ll send a text your way. I would say that a phone call would be nice, but with us being in completely different stages of life, I’m not sure that we would have anything to talk about. As sad as that is, it’s the truth.
I was very sad when we started growing apart, but now it’s been that way for a few months and the pain has turned into numbness. I’ve learned to accept that things will never be the way they were before and that our friendship is turning into an acquaintanceship. We’ve both moved on to different things, and I suspect that you are still going to want my support. I don’t know that I will be able to do that again, but I will try. I will try for the sake of our “friendship” and because I try to have a good heart.
At this point I feel like it is useless to get close to others, because all the friendships I have had have fallen apart. Although, after searching for a while, I was able to find the good. You made me realize that I am not a very nice person and that if I want to continue having friends I need to become nicer and judge less. I have also realized why other friendships drifted apart and what I can do in the future to make friendships last.
I am not writing this letter to be rude, or hurtful, or mean. I am just simply, letting the world know how I feel.
Holly